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ry^HESE  pages  are  designed  to  commemorate 
the  graces  and  virtues  of  one  tenderly  be- 
loved,  who  was  suddenly  summoned  from  the 
Wilderness  of  Earth  to  the  Paradise  of  God. 
They  comprise  appreciative  memorials  which 
originally  appeared  as  obituary  tributes  of  the 
press,  and  a  few  letters  of  sympathy  and  con- 
dolence which,  however  fruitless  at  first,  became 
more  and  more  grateful  and  consoling  to  the 
hearts  of  those  whom  the  iiand  of  bereavement 
had  grievously  smitten. 

These  contributions  are  preserved  for  the 
gratification  of  personal  friends,  who  will  appre- 
ciate the  fact  that  they  but  imperfectly  outline 
the  beautiful  mission  of  her  whose  symmetry 
of  person,  equable  temperament,  and  rare  ac- 
complishments gave  the  fairest  promises  of  a 
lonof  and  useful  life. 


It  is  not  extravagant  affection  which  prompts 
the  dechiration  that  the  subject  of  this  memorial 
was  so  just,  so  self-contained,  and  so  solicitous 
for  the  happiness  of  those  around  her  that  she 
never  permitted  an  elevation  of  the  voice,  an 
unguarded  expression,  or  the  unjust  criticisms 
of  others  to  mar  the  harmony  of  her  social 
circle.  She  ever  had  a  kind  word,  a  gentle  act, 
or  a  pleasant  smile  to  soften  or  beguile  those 
transient  vexations  which  are  too  often  magni- 
fied until  they  roughen  the  surface  of  our  little 
world. 

The  cares  and  responsibilities  of  her  married 
state  wrought  no  change  in  her  admirable  dispo- 
sition further  than  to  cause  her  character  to 
expand  and  blossom  as  a  beautiful  flower,  and 
her  Christian  graces  to  irradiate  as  stars,  to  re- 
flect the  virtues  of  her  inner  life.  She  was  wise 
and  good,  natural  and  confiding.  Trusting,  not 
in  her  own  strength,  she  leaned  upon  her  Saviour 
as  the  final  refuge;  so  tliat  when    her   peerless 


spirit  passed  into  the  hands  of  Him  who  gave 
it,  she  was  prepared  to  say,  "  Father^  not  my 
will,  but  Thine  be  done.'''' 

While  her  friends  may  feel  comforted  that  in 
her  triumph  over  death  she  has  been  transferred 
to  a  brighter  and  happier  world,  human  nature 
will  assert  itself  in  grief  and  sorrow  over  so 
great  and  irreparable  a  loss.  But  faith  illu- 
mines the  dreary  way,  and  softens  the  asperity 
of  affliction  with  the  pleasing  assurance  that 
"  The  Love  that  has  stricken,  o'er  pain  sheds 
its  ray." 

W.  R.  C. 


E  am  tlje  usiirncti'an  anti  tlje  life,  saidj  tfje 
3Lorli.  ^e  tijat  irh'ctictf)  fir  mc,  Hjaugf)  Ije  lucre  tieali, 
get  0!)all  ]^e  Ii'be;  anti  tnljosocbcr  libetlj  anti  beliefaetfj 
in  me,  sljall  neber  life.— St.  John. 

2rf)nt  tiau  luljirl)  men  called  Ijcr  last,  gijall  6c  Ijcr 
fairUjtiag  in  ctcrnitg.  — Seneca. 


OBITUARY     NOTICES. 


DEATH  OF  MRS.  WILLIAM  R.  COX. 


"XTESTERDAY  morning,  at  six  o'clock,  Mrs. 
William  R.  Cox  died  at  the  residence  of 
her  father,  Right  Rev.  T.  B.  Lyman,  on  East 
North  Street,  this  city.  Her  iUness  was  of  brief 
duration  and  her  death  unexpected.  An  infant 
child  survives  her.  She  was  a  lady  of  rare 
cultivation  of  mind,  and  with  all  the  graces  of 
the  Christian  woman.  The  news  of  her  death 
caused  mingled  surprise  and  sorrow. 

News  and  Observer,  Raleigh,  Aug.  22,  1885. 


Sorrow  to  many  Hearts. 


N     MEMORIAM. 


RARELY  have  the  citizens  of  Kaleigh  suf- 
fered a  greater  shock  than  in  the  unex- 
pected death  of  Mrs.  Fanny  Augusta  Cox, 
which  occurred  at  the  residence  of  her  father, 
in  this  city,  Friday  morning,  August  21.  The 
daughter  of  the  Right  Reverend  Theodore  B. 
and  Mrs.  Anna  M.  Lyman,  and  the  wife  of 
Hon.  William  R.  Cox,  she  had  the  deepest 
hold  upon  the  affections  of  the  entire  commu- 
nity, not  only  of  this  city,  but  of  many  other 
sections  of  North  Carolina,  and  the  news  of 
her  sudden  death  will  carry  sorrow  to  many 
hearts. 


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She    was    born    at    Hagerstown,    Maiyland. 
January  26,   1849,  being-  a  member  of  one  of 
the  most  prominent  families  of  that  State.    Her 
early  life  was  spent  for  the  most  part  in  Europe; 
and  her  rare  educational  advantages  in  Dresden, 
Paris,  and  Rome  were  improved  to  the  utmost, 
giving  her  an  unusual  command  of  modern  lan- 
guages and  a  broad  and  catholic  culture.     Her 
father  removed  with  his  family  from  Rome  to 
California,  and  upon  his  election  to  the  Bishopric 
of  North  Carolina  took  up  his  permanent  resi- 
dence in  Raleigh.     Here  she  speedily  became  a 
general  favorite,  her  kindliness  of  disposition  and 
uniform  courtesy  winning  her  hosts  of  friends. 
In  January,  1883,  she  became  the  wife  of  Hon. 
W.  R.  Cox,  then  as  now  the  Representative  in 
Congress   from    the   Fourth    District.      Shortly 
after  their  marriage.  General  and  Mrs.  Cox  took 
an  extended  European  tour,  pleasant  reminders 
of  which  occasionally  appeared  in  the  columns 
of  "  The  News  and  Observer." 


Illness  of  'Brief  "Duration. 


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In  Wasliington  Mrs.  Cox  soon  became  well 
known  in  society,  and  social  circles  looked  for- 
ward with  pleasant  anticipations  to  her  residence 
in  that  city  during  the  approaching  winter.  Her 
illness  was  of  but  few  hours'  duration,  and  the 
first  intelligence  received  by  the  community 
was  the  announcement  of  her  death.  She  leaves 
two  sons,  —  a  handsome  boy  of  twenty  months, 
in  whom  her  whole  heart  was  wrapped  up,  and 
an  infant. 

News  Observer,  Raleigh. 


eA  cultivated  Christian  Lady. 


TpVERY  citizen  of  Riileigh  who  knew  that 
"^  lovely,  cultivated  Christian  lady,  Mrs. 
Fanny  Lyman  Cox,  the  wife  of  our  honored 
Representative,  was  struck  with  horror  and 
grief  at  the  announcement  of  her  sudden  death 
this  morning.  Mrs.  Cox  was  the  daughter  of 
Bishop  Lyman,  and  was  extensively  known  and 
greatly  admired  throughout  our  State.  Her 
friends  and  family  are  paralyzed  and  dumb  with 
grief  in  face  of  the  inscrutable  providence 
which  has  removed  the  young  mother,  in  the 
prime  of  her  life  and  usefulness,  from  their 
midst.  We  cannot  give  expression  to  the  uni- 
versal regret  with  which  this  terrible  blow  has 
been  received. 

Slate  Chronicle,  Raleigh. 


A    sad    Bereavement. 


/~\UR  sympathies  are  extended  to  General 
^-^^  W.  R.  Cox,  Congressman  in  the  Raleigh 
District,  upon  the  death  of  his  most  lovable 
wife,  which  sad  event  occurred  at  his  residence, 
in  Raleigh,  on  Friday,  August  21st. 

Mrs.  Cox  was  the  daughter  of  Bishop 
Lyman.  She  leaves  two  children,  the  youngest 
a  tender  infant. 

This  sad  bereavement  not  only  affects  her 
family  circle,  but  will  be  painfully  felt  in  a  wide 
circle  of  admiring  friends  and  acquaintances. 

Southerner,  Tarboro. 


Loveliness  of  Character. 


rr\RE  wife  of  General  William  R.  Cox,  Con- 
-*-  gressman  from  the  Raleigh  District,  North 
Carolina,  died  at  Raleigh  yesterday  morning. 
She  was  the  eldest  daughter  of  Bishop  Theodore 
B.Lyman;  she  was  well  known  in  lialtiniore, 
and  greatly  admired  for  her  accomplishments 
and  loveliness  of  character.  Mrs.  Cox  had 
travelled  with  her  father,  and  later  with  her 
husband,  extensively  in  Europe,  tlie  East,  and 
in  this  country. 

jNIrs.  Cox's  mother  is  a  sister  of  Augustus 
J.  Albert,  and  her  maiden  name  was  Fanny 
Augusta  Lyman.  Li  Washington,  where  she 
spent  several  winters  witli  her  husband,  she  had 
made  a  most  favorable  impression.  Her  illness 
was  known  to  onl}-  her  nearest  relatives  and 
friends  in  Baltimore.  Father  Lyman,  of  Govas- 
town,  is  an  uncle  of  Mrs.  Cox ;  Dr.  A.  B. 
Lyman,  of  this  city,  is  a  brother;  Mrs.  Robert 
Gilmer  is  a  first  cousin.  Besides  these,  she  has 
numerous  relatives  and  connections  by  marriage 
in  Baltimore. 

Sun,  Baltimore. 


Assemblage  of  Excellencies. 


TN  the  death  of  Mrs.  William  R.  Cox,  wife 
of  the  Representative  from  Raleigh,  North 
Carolina,  her  many  friends  here  and  elsewhere 
have  sustained  a  loss  which  will  be  long  and 
deeply  felt.  During  her  residence  in  this  city 
she  charmed  every  one  with  her  easy  and 
graceful  manners,  her  self-possession  and  rare 
intelligence.  She  enjoyed  society,  and  had  a 
joyful  interest  in  life,  for  she  was  surrounded 
with  the  manifold  comforts  and  appliances 
which  are  incident  to  the  most  easy  conditions, 
and  there  was  everything  in  her  external  cir- 
cumstances to  make  that  life  desirable.  She 
combined  a  rich  assemblage  of  excellencies. 
Possessing  faculties  of  a  high  order,  fine  con- 
versational talents,  varied  stores  of  information, 
besides  accomplishments  as  a  linguist,  there  was 


Harnioiiious  as  the  F/ozver. 


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also  simplicity  of  taste,  clear  good  sense,  with 
an  absence  of  anything  like  pretension.  She 
was  careful  of  the  feelings  of  those  about  her, 
and  in  the  relation  of  a  wife,  a  mother,  a 
daughter,  a  sister,  a  friend,  she  united  dignit}', 
tenderness,  and  discretion. 

Her  physical,  intellectual,  and  spiritual  per- 
son was  a  fine  specimen  of  symmetry,  —  "  har- 
monious as  the  flower."  Her  intellect  was  quick 
and  active,  her  culture  deep,  and  enriched  by 
the  experiences  of  extensive  travels  in  foreign 
lands.  She  had  a  woman's  appreciation  of  the 
beautiful  in  all  its  forms  of  manifestation, 
whether  in  natural  scenery  or  in  works  of  art. 
In  the  circle  of  her  acquaintances  the  memor}'- 
of  virtues  that  had  such  brief  continuance  on 
earth  has  left  an  impression  that  time  cannot 
efface. 

Post,  Washington. 


rriHE  recent  death  of  Mrs.  William  R. 
Cox,  at  Raleigh,  North  Carolina,  has 
touched  with  grief  the  hearts  of  man^^  beyond 
the  circle  of  the  family  that  loved  her  so  well. 

In  this  universal  sorrow  it  is  pleasant  and 
consoling  to  record  the  nian}'^  attractive  graces 
that  clustered  round  her  genuine  and  gracious 
life. 

Endowed  with  brilliancy,  quickness  of  intel- 
lect, and  natural  delicate  artistic  tastes,  she 
profited  by  her  unusual  opportunities,  and  by 
periods  of  foreign  residence  and  travel,  she  be- 
came versed  and  accomplished  in  art,  languages, 
and  modern  literature.  These  rich  endowments 
of  nature  and  culture  made  her  a  delightful 
companion  to  all  who  knew  her;  while  her 
native  kindness  of  heart,  her  thoughtful  con- 
side^"ation  for  others,  and  her  refined  womanly 
instincts  made    all   her   associates    her    friends, 


Unselfish  Uevotioii . 


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and  won  from  many  their  entire  confidence  and 
affection. 

Ever  sedulously  considei'ate  of  those  subordi- 
nate to  her,  she  was  beloved  by  them  with  the 
greatest  warmth. 

Hers  was  a  beautiful  Christian  character ;  she 
lived  in  the  fulfilment  of  duty,  in  unselfish 
devotion  to  the  interest  of  relative  and  friend, 
and  amidst  all  the  duties  and  pleasures  that 
surrounded  her,  her  church  and  her  obligations 
were  never  forgotten  or  neglected,  and  deft 
mementos,  the  work  of  her  own  hands,  testify 
to  her  loving  care. 

Verily  "  her  sun  went  down  while  it  was  yet 
day,"  and  a  home  is  now  darkened  by  the 
sudden  removal  of  the  one  who  was  the  centre 
of  its  life  and  light. 

May"  the  God  of  all  comfort,  in  His  own  good 
way  and  time,  heal  the  smitten  hearts,  and  give 
fullest  consolation  to  those  who  mourn. 

Churchman,  New  York. 


Simplicity    of  iMaiiiier. 


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N  Raleigh,  Friday  morning,  August  21,  at 
tlie  residence  of  her  father,  the  Bishop  of 
North  Carolina,  departed  out  of  this  life  into 
a  better,  Fanny  Augusta,  wife  of  the  Hon. 
Wra.  R.  Cox,  in  the  thirty-seventh  year  of 
her  age. 

The  impression  made  upon  society  by  this 
sad  and  unlooked-for  event  has  been  indicated 
in  many  ways,  and  especially  by  the  appreciative 
notices  of  the  secular  press.  Called  to  a  con- 
spicuous position  in  the  eye  of  the  world,  and 
having  always  moved  in  the  most  distinguished 
society,  Mrs.  Cox  was  singularly  fitted  to  per- 
form with  grace  and  dignity  the  duties  of  her 
station,  and  to  add  to  it  the  charm  of  culti- 
vated and  accomplished  womanhood.  Strength 
of  natural  understanding,  simplicity  of  manner, 
which  can  only  come  of  good  sense  and  good 


Decision  of  Character. 


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feeling,  decision  of  character,  and  a  high  sense 
of  duty  were  the  most  important  elements  of  a 
personality  in  which  those  who  knew  her  best 
recognized  also  the  softer  qualities  of  gentle- 
ness, patience,  kindness,  charity.  It  is  not 
possible  that  society  should  lose  such  an  orna- 
ment and  not  feel  deeply  the  loss. 

What  she  was  to  those  of  her  own  house- 
hold only  they  themselves  can  fully  understand. 
The  gentle  and  affectionate  daughter,  the  lov- 
ing and  confiding  wife,  the  tender  and  devoted 
mother,  the  sincere  and  considerate  friend,  — 
her  life  was  complete  and  rounded,  though 
short.  She  gave  full  proof  of  her  ministry  to 
those  to  whom  God  had  sent  her :  "•  The  heart 
of  her  husband  did  safely  trust  in   her." 

But  in  the  hour  of  bereavement  we  turn  to 
other  sources  of  comfort  than  social  and  domes- 
tic virtues,  however  conspicuous  these  may  have 
been.  Underlying  these,  quickening  them  into 
their  most  beautiful  development,  was  a  spirit 


Piety  was  Unostentatious. 


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of  sincere  and  rational  leligion.  Family  cares 
and  social  engagements  could  never  make  her 
forget  her  duties  to  God  and  to  His  Cliurch. 
Yet  her  piety  was  quiet  and  unostentatious, 
not  exhibited  to  men,  and  known  only  by  its 
sanctifying  influence  upon  her  character,  and 
b}'  those  undesigned  and  unconscious  self- 
manifestations  wherein  the  most  modest  soul 
cannot  but  show  occasional  glimpses  of  its 
inner  life  to  the  appreciative  eye  of  friend  and 
intimate. 

The  closing  scene  —  awful  and  unexpected  — 
might  crush  family  and  friends  by  its  sudden 
sorrow,  but  God  prepares  His  children  whom 
He  calls.  Without  fear  and  without  repining 
she  resigned  her  spirit  into  the  hands  of  Him 
who  stood  by  her  ready  to  receive  it. 

."  The  fear  of  the  Lord  tendeth  to  life  :  And 
he  that  hath  it  shall  abide  satisfied  :  he  shall 
not  be  visited  with   evil." 

Church  Messenger,  N.  C. 


'''Abide  tait/i   us ;  for  it  is  towards  evening,  and 
the  day  is  far  spent" 

''''Abide  7vith  me,  fast  faUs  the  eventide, 
The  darkness  deepens.  Lord,  with  me  abide. 
When  other  helpers  fail,  and  €077iforts  flee, 
Help  of  the  helpless,  oh,  abide  with  fjief" 


THE     FUNERAL. 


THE  funeral  services  of  Mrs.  Cox  were  held 
Sunday  afternoon,  from  Christ  Church,  and 
were  impressively  sad.  The  tiibutes  of  respect 
paid  the  dead,  in  the  attendance,  the  sympathy 
manifested,  and  the  floral  tiibutes,  were  marked. 
The  services  were  conducted  by  Rev.  Gilbert 
HiGGS,  of  Warrenton,  Rev.  Bennett  Smedes, 
and  Rev.  R.  B.  Sutton,  D.D.  Rev.  Dr.  F.  M. 
Hubbard  was  in  the  chancel.  Rev.  Gilbert 
HiGGS  read  the  lesson.  The  choir  sweetly 
chanted  the  burial  anthem  and  the  hymn, "Abide 
with  me."  Rev.  Bennett  Smedes  recited  the 
closing  prayer.  As  the  procession  passed  out 
the  south  door  of  the  church  the  choir  sang, 
"Hark  !  hark!  my  soul,  angelic  songs  are  sing- 
ing." The  services  were  concluded  at  the  city 
cemetery,  where  the  remains  were  temporarily 
placed  in  a  vault.  Rev.  Dr.  Sutton  conducted 
these  closing  services. 

The  following  gentlemen  were  the  pall-bear- 
ers: Messrs.  Walter  Clark,  S.  A.  Ashe,  V.  E. 
Turner,  George  H.  Snow,  A.  B.  Andrews, 
F.  H.  BusBEE,  R.  S.  Tucker,  and  C.  B.  Root. 


LETTERS. 


rriHE    following  personal  letters  to  members 
of   the    family  of  the    deceased    furnish 
tlieir  own  explanation. 

They  are  embodied  in  this  Memoir  to  facili- 
tate that  communion  of  sympathy  which  is  ever 
grateful  to  the  overburdened  heart. 


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Cape  May,  N.  J.,  Aug.  21,  1885. 

I  do  not  know  how  to  write  all  the  sorrow 
and  sympathy  I  feel  for  you  and  for  myself. 
We  all  loved  your  Fanny  next  to  our  imme- 
diate circle,  and  the  shock  is  very  great.  My 
dear  Aunt,  how  I  wish  I  was  with  you  in  this 
trying  hour,  if  only  to  press  your  d'ear  heart  on 
my  shoulder,  for  I  know  what  overwhelming 
sorrow  is  so  well.  I  feel  so  shocked  and  dazed 
now  I  can  only  pray  that  He  whom  3'ou  liave 
served  and  trusted  so  long  will  hold  you  closer 
in  His  "  everlasting  arms "  than  ever  before. 
Pa  is  completely  unmanned ;  he  has  been  talk- 
ing a  great  deal  about  Fanny  the  past  few  days. 

J sends  love  and  sympathy,  in  which  all 

join,  to  you  and  all  your  afflicted  household. 
Judge  Cox,  and  precious  little  Albert,  too 
young  to  know  his  loss.  How  dear  he  will 
be  to  you  now,  —  a  link  between  heaven  and 
earth.  ...  * 


Closest  of  all  Communion. 


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Capk  May,  Aug.  22,  1885. 

I  could  not  help  being  disappointed  when  the 
mail  came  in,  that  there  was  nothing  from  Ra- 
leigh, although  I  did  not  know  who  was  there 
to  write.  It  is  so  hard  to  sit  quietly  here  unable 
to  do  anything  for  you,  and  not  knowing  any- 
thing beyond  the  distressing,  heart-rending  fact 
that  our  dear  Fanny's  dear,  sweet,  kind,  thought- 
ful spirit  is  no  longer  with  you,  but  with  her 
loving  Saviour.  That  can  be  and  must  be  the 
thought  now,  —  not  what  we  are  suffering,  but 
that  the  loving  daughter  and  wife  and  gentle 
friend  is  face  to  face,  even  eye  to  eye,  with  her 
Saviour,  —  the  closest  of  all  communion.  We 
are  all  so  distressed,  for  we  all  loved  her  as  one 
of  ourselves.  I  so  hope  Judge  Cox  and  Bishop 
Lyman  were  with  you,  and  will  anxiously  await 
the  particulars.  I  wish  I  could  know  when  she 
is  to  be  laid  in  the  grave  hallowed  by  Jesus, 
he  having  laid  there  first  and  robbed  it  of  its 
gloom.  I  am  thinking  of  you  all  the  time,  and 
praying  for  you  and   for  all.  * 


Overwhelming^  Sorrow. 


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Baltimohk,  Md.,  Sept.  2,  188.'). 


What  shull  I  say  to  express  my  great  sym- 
pathy for  you  in  this  overvvhehning  sorrow  tliat 
has  come  upon  you  all  ?  It  was  a  great  shock 
to  every  one  of  us  —  something  that  is  impos- 
sible to  realize  —  that  dear  Fanny  is  gone. 

I  always  associate  with  her  the  thought  of 
perfect  health  and  strength.  It  will  be  a  pleas- 
ure to  me  always  to  remember  her  as  she  looked 
last  winter,  when  she  stayed  here  with  her  little 
Albert.  I  never  saw  her  look  so  pretty  ;  and 
she  was  so  proud  of  her  baby,  and  looked  so 
perfectly  happy,  that  I  like  to  think  of  it.  That 
she  should  have  been  taken  out  of  this  world 
when  she  had  everything  to  live  for  is  truly 
mysterious.  I  am  sure  it  must  be  a  comfort  to 
you  to  feel  that  she  has  been  spared  pain  and 
trouble  in  this  life,  and  that  she  now  awaits  in 
the  Paradise  of  God  those  whom  she  loved  and 
left  here  on  earth. 


The  Precious  Legacy. 


47 


Fanny  was  such  a  sweet  cliaracter  tliat  we  all 
felt  very  much  attached  to  her.  I  do  not  be- 
lieve I  ever  heard  her  say  a  harsh  word  of  any- 
one, nor  heard  her  raise  her  voice  in  anger. 
She  was  always  the  same,  no  matter  if  we  saw 
her  ever}'  day  or  only  once  a  year.  She  had  a 
kind,  pleasant  word  for  every  one.  This  must 
have  been  pleasing  to  her  Heavenly  Father,  and 
the  thought  of  it  must  be  a  great  help  to  you. 
But  of  course  this  is  an  hour  of  such  sore  trouble 
that  it  is  beyond  the  power  of  any  friend  on 
earth  to  help  or  comfort  you.  I  trust  and  am 
assured  that  the  good  God,  whom  you  have 
loved  and  in  whom  you  have  believed  all  these 
years,  will  strengthen  and  sustain  you.  How 
your  heart  will  go  out  in  love  and  tenderness 
to  the  dear  little  motherless  babies,  —  the  pre- 
cious legacy  Fanny  has  left  behind  her! 

Please  give  assurances  of  our  sympathy  to 
Bishop  Lyman,  Judge  Cox,  and  all  your 
household. 


Bright  and  full  of  Happiness. 


49 


Bai.timoue,  Md.,  Sept.  6,  1885. 

I  was  so  much  distressed  to  hear  of  dear 
Fanny's  sudden  death.  How  dreadfully  sad  for 
her  to  be  called  just  when  life  was  brightest 
and  fullest !  It  is  hard  for  us  to  realize,  when 
we  think  of  the  little  helpless  babies  she  has 
been  called  upon  to  leave,  that  "all  things 
work  together  for  good  for  those  who  love 
God."  Yet  we  do  and  must  believe  that  it  is 
so.  Dear  Mrs.  Lyman,  I  wish  I  could  say  some- 
thing to  comfort  you,  for  Fanny's  sake ;  but  I 
know  of  nothing  except  to  think  of  the  beauties 
and  graces  of  her  character,  which  surely  now 
has  been  brought  to  perfection,  the  sweetness 
of  her  disposition,  her  kindness  and  generosity. 
Long  and  intimately  as  I  have  known  Fanny, 
I  never  heard  her  speak  ill  of  any  one.  She 
seemed  always  to  think  the  best  of  every  one. 
I  am  glad,  as  her  life  has  been  so  short,  that  it 
has  been  so  bright  and  full  of  happiness. 


One  to  be  Proud  of. 


51 


I\I()XT  Alto,  1'exx.,  Aug   23,  1885. 

The  tidings  of  dear  Fanny's  death  came  to 
us  through  the  Phihidelphia  "  Piess,"  sent  hy 
a  friend  tliis  morning.  It  is  hard  to  reaHze  that 
she  is  taken,  just  now  when  she  had  so  much  to 
live  for,  in  the  happy  days  of  her  life.  From 
time  to  time  I  have  heard  of  her  and  of  you  all 
through  my  sisters,  and  I  have  never  ceased  to 
feel  great  interest  in  the  welfare  of  the  family, 
and  lejoiced   much  in  Fanny's  happiness. 

We  do  indeed  see  "  through  a  glass  darkly  ;  " 
but  we  do  still  see  through  faith  that  "  all 
things  work  together  for  good  to  them  tliat  love 
God;"  and  however  imperfect  we  are,  we  are 
still  sure  of  this,  that  we  do  love  Him.  I  may 
write,  I  hope,  without  intruding  upon  the  grief 
which  the  first  death  in  3-our  family  causes,  for 
I  loved  Fanny  as  a  child  ;  and  when  she  came 
home,  after  so  many  years  of  absence,  an  elegant, 
accomplished,  and  dignified  woman,  she  was  one 
to  be  proud  of  and  admire.  Above  all,  I  trust 
she  was  a  sincere  Christian,  that  now  she  is  en- 
joying the  rest  of  Paradise.  If,  in  this  great 
sorrow,  the  sympathy  of  your  friends  is  any 
consolation  to  you,  be  assured  you  have  it. 


Fascination  so  Peculiar. 


53 


LiTciiKiKLD,  Conn.,  Aug.  2i,  1885. 

It  is  difficult  for  me  to  realize  the  fact  that 
our  dearly  loved  Fanny  has  passed  away  from 
these  earthly  scenes.  After  such  brief  experi- 
ence of  conjugal  and  maternal  happiness,  what 
a  sad,  hard  separation !  She  was  gifted  and 
fitted,  to  adorn  a  home  and  the  society  which 
opened  to  her.  The  last  time  we  saw  our  dear 
Fanny  she  was  so  bright,  so  lovable  in  her  joy- 

ousness  and  prospective  happiness.     We,  B 

and  I,  were  impressed  with  the  charm  of  a  fas- 
cination so  peculiar;  it  fairly  transfigured  her, 
and  we  caught  the  glow.  We  little  thought  it 
was  our  last  meeting.  It  is  the  first  blight,  my 
dear  friend,  that  has  fallen  upon  your  family 
circle,  and  it  could  only  be  one  slip  more  heavy. 
.  .  .  May  you  and  the  Bishop,  as  well  as  all  so 
deeply  involved  in  this  heavy  affliction,  be  ever 
sustained  and  cheered  by  the  sweet  assurance 
that  she  is  "■  asleep  in  Jesus,"  and  so  draw  eveiy 
spiritual  and  sustaining  comfort  from  the  hope 
of  an  eternal  and  blessed  reunion.     .  .  . 


A  Terrible  Loss. 


55 

Baltimork,  Aug.  31,  1885 

It  was  witli  the  deepest  sorrow  Dr.  B and 

I  saw  in  the  papers  the  annonncement  of  your 
dear  Fann3^'s  death.  Words  fail  me  to  express 
my  sympathy  with  you  and  her  father  on  this 
mournful  occasion.  So  young,  healthy,  aii<l  full 
of  strength  as  she  always  appeared,  a  long  and 
hai)py  life  seemed  to  be  her  portion.  I  can 
hardly  express  the  shock  with  which  I  read  the 
account  of  her  premature  and  sudden  death. 

What  a  terrible  loss  she  must  be  to  her  hus- 
band and  family,  not  to  speak  of  the  Bishop 
and  yourself.  .  .  .  Only  a  short  time  ago  she 
sent  me  a  lovely  photograph  of  her  eldest  little 
boy,  and  I  was  anticipating  with  pleasure  seeing 
him  and  his  mother  during  my  present  stay  in 
America.  Your  son  Albert  wrote  to  the  Doctor, 
telling  him  of  Fanny's  death,  and  the  Doctor 
asked  him  to  come  out  and  see  us,  which  he 
did.  When  you  feel  able  I  should  be  glad 
to  hear  from  you.  We  arrived  in  Ameiica 
last  \\eek.  .  .  . 


Happiness  too  Great. 


57 


Georgktown,  Ohio,  Aug.  24,  1885. 


I  was  shocked  and  pained  to  read  in  the 
New  York  "  Herald "  the  announcement  of 
your  wife's  and  my  friend's  death.  It  seems 
so  dreadful  to  think  of  the  happy  wife  and 
mother  gone  forever.  Your  happiness  with  her 
was  too  great  to  hist,  and  my  lieart  goes  out  to 
you  in  this,  your  terrible  loss.  God  bless  and 
comfort  you  is  my  earnest  prayer.  I  suppose 
your  wife  died  in  childbirth.  .  .  .  For  a  woman 
to  die  under  such  circumstances  is  unusually 
sad,  —  a  spirit  coming,  and  a  spirit  going.  In 
every  way  did  fortune  smile  on  Mrs.  Cox,  and 
it  seems  all  the  harder  to  think  of  her  as  dead. 
She  was  so  fond  and  i^roud  of  \o\\.  Please  let 
me  know  if  she  suffered  very,  very  much,  also 
if  her  babe  lives. 

What  anguish  it  must  have  been  to  her  (if 
conscious)  to  give  up  a  living  presence  with 
you,  her  family,  and  her  children  !  j\Iy  hand  is 
too  tremulous  to  write  any  more  on  a  subject 
which  gives  me  pain. 


Her  Place  can  never  he  Filled. 


59 


Univeusity  of  Viuginia,  Aug.  24,  1885. 

Pardon  me  for  iiitriuliiig  thus  upon  your 
great  grief,  but  I  canuot  resist  sending  30U  a 
few  lines  to  express  my  warm  and  heartfelt 
sympathy  for  you  in  your  terrible  sorrow. 

1  shall  ever  mourn  her  loss,  and  remember  her 
with  the  sincerest  affection  as  the  sweetest, 
most  lovable,  and  attractive  of  friends,  whose 
place  can  never  be  filled. 

God  alone,  in  his  infinite  love  and  mercy,  can 
give  you  consolation.  May  you  find  strength 
from  Him  to  bear  this  heavy  affliction,  is  the 
earnest  wish  of  your  sincere  friend. 


Influential  and  Useful. 


61 

Wasiiingtox,  D.  C,  Auij.  22,  1885. 

I  observe  with  puiii  that  Mrs.  Cox  has  been 
taken  fnnn  yon.  Let  nie  express  my  sympathy 
in  this  great  affliction.  T  had  not  had  the  good 
fortune  to  see  mucli  of  Mrs.  Cox,  but  the  im- 
pression I  received  when  once  calling  upon  her 
at  this  place  was  so  favorable  that  I  am  disposed 
to  feel  and  to  express  regret  that  it  has  pleased 
the  Sovereign  Disposer  of  events  to  take  her 
from  a  scene  in  which  I  had  imagined  that  she 
was  to  be  influential  and  useful.  So  much, 
General,  in  addition  to  your  own  more  special 
cause  for  great  sorrow.  No  doubt,  however,  it 
is  all  right  upon  that  great  scheme  of  things  in 
which  we  all  make  part,  but  to  the  movement 
of  which  our  souls  do  not  always  at  once  con- 
form ;  and  when  it  is  said  to  be  "•  right,"  all  is 

said  that  can  offer  consolation. 

* 


63 

Black  Mountain,  N.  C,  Sept.  3,  1885. 

My  husband  iind  I  have  felt  so  niucli  pain 
in  talking  of  your  loss,  we  have  heen  incapable 
of  saying  any  word  of  sympathy  to  yon.  In- 
deed, the  blow  that  has  fallen  ui)on  yon  was 
so  unexpected  by  your  friends  that  one  has  a 
stunned  feeling  for  you,  and  fails  to  realize  the 
infinitude  of  such  loss  when  it  is  so  new.  I 
know  how  you  must  be  staggering  along  your 
way.  Your  happiness  was  so  new.  I  have 
not  gotten  over  being  glad  for  you,  and  iioiv,  so 
soon,  it  is  all  changed.  Please  try  and  remem- 
ber that  all  of  your  friends  can  bear  testimony 
that  you  made  her  life  like  the  morning, — all 
sunshine.  I  do  not  think  tliere  could  be  any- 
thing sweeter  for  a  man  to  remember  than  that 
he  made  his  wife,  while  he  had  her,  hnppy. 
And  so  you  will  have  to  gather  up  your 
strength,  not  as  you  had  planned  at  all,  but 
with  at  least  a  great  consolation  in  the  thought 
of  her  blameless  life,  her  gentleness  and  grace, 
and  all  the  joy  you  brought  into  her  life.  .  .  . 

* 


65 


Wasiiinijtox,  D.  C,  Sept.  5,  1885. 

It  is  with  sincere  sorrow  I  write  to  offer  my 
heartfelt  sympathy  in  your  great  loss.  I  was 
inexpressibly  shocked  and  grieved,  for  I  liad 
not  heard  of  dear  Fanny's  illness,  and  the  notice 
of  her  death  was  a  fearful  surprise.  She  had 
endeared  herself  to  her  many  friends  by  lier 
lovely  disposition,  her  gentleness,  lier  unvary- 
ing friendship  and  Christian  character,  and  her 
loss  will  be  deeply  felt  by  all  wliosO  privilege 
it  was  to  know  her.  I  cannot  pretend  to  offer 
you  any  consolation,  for  I  know  how  utterly 
futile  all  words  are  ;  but  I  can  offer  our  sincere 
sympathy. 

My  little  boys  remember  her  with  the  greatest 
affection,  and  expressed  so  much  sorrow  when 
I  told  them  she  had  passed  away. 

I  would  have  written  earliei',  but  have  been 
ill,  and  can  scarcely  write  coherently.  But  I 
feel  that  I  must  send  you  a  few  lines,  to  assure 
you  of  my  love  for  dear  Faniu'  and  my  deep 
sympathy  for  you  and  your  family.   .   .  . 


Learned  to  appreciate  her. 


Ralkigii,  Sept.  4,  1885. 

We  received  the  sad  intelligence  of  the  sud- 
den death  of  Mrs.  Cox  while  in  the  West.  My 
famil}'  were  ver}-  much  shocked  at  the  intelli- 
gence. Only  a  short  time  before  they  had  been 
much  with  her  at  Morehcad  City,  and  learned 
to  appreciate  her  more  than  ever;  and  they  join 
me  in  extending  to  you  assurances  of  their 
deepest  sympathy.  Human  sympathy  in  the 
hour  of  deep  affliction  is  of  little  avail  to  our 
hearts ;  but  I  need  not  remind  you,  ni}^  dear 
friend,  that  a  Father's  hand  has  given  this 
blow,  and  He  alone  can  and  He  will  heal  the 
wound. 


Loved  and  Admired. 


69 


Rock  Enon  Springs,  Va.,  Aug.  29,  1885. 

You  have  been  so  constantly  in  my  tlionghts 
since  I  lieard  of  the  death  of  your  precious 
wife,  I  cannot  refrain  from  giving  expression  to 
my  sincere  and  tender  sympathy.  I  loved  and 
admired  Mrs.  Cox  so  much  that  you  will  not 
consider  it  a  liberty.  I  hesitated  about  intrud- 
ing on  the  sacredness  of  your  grief,  but  you 
will  understand  and  appreciate  my  feelings. 
I  am  truly  grieved,  and  my  sorrow  is  heart- 
felt. ...  I  am  one  of  many  who  grieve  with 
and  for  you,  and  pray  that  by  God's  grace  you 
may  be  enabled  to  bear  with  patience  and  forti- 
tude your  great  sorrow-.     Judge  H is  with 

me,  and  desires  me  to  express  to  you  his  deepest 
sympathy. 


Beautiful  Life  and  Generous  Nature. 


71 

Constantinople,  Sept.lO,  1885. 

On  going-  down  the  city  from  here  (Thaapia), 
where  we  live  for  the  summer,  I  secured  my 
mail.  What  a  sad  revelation  1  found  inside ! 
I  handed  the  unwelcome  tidings  of  your  blessed 
wife's  demise  to  my  wife,  and  the  beautiful  life 
and  generous  nature  of  yours  was  our  theme. 
But  how  can  we  express  the  heart's  condoling 
sympathy  ?  I  must  leave  it  to  the  gentler  feel- 
ings of  my  wife,  who  knew  how  to  appreciate 
the  qualities  of  yours.  I  intended  last  week 
to  write  you  a  general  letter,  to  let  you  know 
about  our  new  life  under  its  strange  conditions 
here  ;  but  I  must  await  the  lapse  of  time,  for 
life  in  its  most  charming  features  has  lost  for 
you  so  much  of  its  enchantments. 

Trusting  your  boy  and  the  child  are  well, 
and  that  you  have  with  your  innate  courage  and 
true  philosophy  mastered  some  of  the  sad  and 
discouraging  obstacles  which  Death  has  placed 
in  your  path,  I  am  as  ever, 


MONODY. 


The  Young  and  beautiful  lies  T)ead, 


A    MONODY 

ON    THE 

DEATH    OF     MRS.    FANNY     AUGUSTA    COX, 
Who  died  at  Ralkigh,  N.  C.  August  21,  1885. 

Bv  William  J.  Clarke. 

A       VOICE  of  wailing  strikes  mine  ear, 
-^-^    A  query  Earth  cannot  make  clear. 
I  sadly  ask,  "•  Oh  !   why  did  Heaven 
Take  back  the  gift  that  it  had  given  ?  " 
The  young  and  beautiful  lies  dead. 
The  bright  and  loving  spirit 's  fled  ; 
Earth  draped  in  mourning,  nevermore, 
With  sunniest  beams  can  joy  restore. 
Ye  starry  watchers  of  the  night ! 
Ye  saw  her  spirit's  upward  flight ; 
Wearied  she  of  mortal  woe, 
And  heav'nward  flew,  the  way  to  show  ? 


"Earth  to  Earth,  T>ust  to  Dust." 


77 


"  Earth  to  earth,  and  dust  to  dust ! 
Saviour,  in  thy  word  we  trust." 
Death  is  not  the  spirit's  night, 
But  dawning  of  eternal  light. 
O'er  Lazarus  laid  in  his  tomb, 
On  earth  you  wept,  in  mortal  gloom. 
Soft  as  Hermon's  dews  distil, 
Our  hearts  with  heav'nlj^  solace  fill! 
Teach  us  to  feel  —  our  hearts  to  say, 
"  Our  Father  knew  the  better  way." 

One  's  needed  for  celestial  choir, 
He  speaks:  "  My  daughter,  come  up  higher." 

Lost  one  !  on  summer  ev'ning's  close, 
When  tired  Earth  seeks  soft  repose. 
Thy  beck'ning  hand  from  glowing  skies 
Will  oft  be  seen  by  loving  eyes. 

New-Beene,  N.  C,  Aug.  23,  1885. 


